You will figure it out, I promise. Maybe you'll do...

2009-08-01T14:16:21.021-04:00

You will figure it out, I promise. Maybe you'll do it differently, but that doesn't mean it will be wrong! Just keep at it. You'll be fine.

since i seem to be losing my current bout with ins...

2009-07-07T04:32:15.287-04:00

since i seem to be losing my current bout with insomnia . . .

i'm going to say somethings that are pretty un-pc, that's a warning.

you are not as tuned into violet - period. which is by no means me saying that you aren't a good dad. carl is the best dad i know and yet i could hear malachai shift position from a dead sleep. carl - not so much.

the social faux paus thing - she's right. carl does something similar with his family "um, sure i think so - let me ask cassie" that statement makes it clear that he wants to do whatever it is and if he returns with a no verdict it's because of me. when the truth is half the time he doesn't want to do it anyway. but i digress.

i've read enough of your posts to know that some of your friends have here and there had issue with kim and with you leaving them behind for kim so yeah . . .

anyway, that is usually - as for *this time* in particular - i don't know exactly how you worded it in your response but the wording is damned near everything. turn the scenario - can you imagine kim telling someone "no, i can't go out mark needs me to help with the baby" (and forget the breastfeeding thing for a minute).

in both scenarios you are taking a passive role that lends itself to the idea that kim is in charge and you are along for the ride.

on the other side of the coin - - from what i know of you you don't have a lot of experience with babies. kim does. plus (here comes the un-pc again) that whole not hearing the baby fuss thing. it isn't just the being in tune part. it's men vs. women. men handle problems - baby crying is a problem. women try to handle things before it becomes a problem - baby fussing is a potential problem. and so the truth is that you need some patience right now. she knows more about this and needs to be leading the way calmly. but of course, you're gonna have to wait a while until that kicks in. there is no rationality now - don't expect it! :D

the best thing you can do is pay attention to what she does when she is caring for violet. there are a million little things that she knows to do but isn't necessarily going to think to tell you (to us they seem obvious).

be patient with yourself on this daddy thing. you're a good man and you love your daughter - you'll figure it out.

anyway- hopefully i didn't overstep my bounds here but you posted it and it is after all 4am so my ability to make reasoned decisions . . . not so much.

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You will figure it out, I promise. Maybe you'll do...

since i seem to be losing my current bout with ins...